Dating a 30 year old man at 21
I dated a guy fourteen years older than myself, and when anyone - sister, friend, parent - told me he was too old for me I'd just push back against it and their ultimately well-founded concerns went in one ear and out the other.
There can be subtle signs that a less experienced person may not pick up on when assessing someone-- or a person that's all hopped up on lovey feelings wouldn't notice.
Now I am a 27 year old happily married to a 35 year old. A lot of young women date older men and get over it when they grow up a little more themselves. When I was 24, I very briefly took up with a 38 year old. The worrisome aspect would be him ready for a commitment she's not ready for--marriage, kids, etc.
Who's career will take precedence in regards to things like moving - it might end up being th person more established in their which would tend to be the older partner. Yeah you said it isn't an option but I do think at 20 I didn't really have the maturity and independence to handle an "adult" relationship.
Depends on the guy. How long have they been together? The relationships are healthy.
#1 20-Year-Old Versus Thirty-Year-Old: Pregame
I'd like to state that I am NOT trying to control her in any way. Is this a cause for concern?
We were taught some good and many deeply twisted, woman hating, and patriarchal things about love, sex, and relationships. This thread is closed to new comments. When it doesn't matter is when you and your partner don't talk or worry about it.
Who knows whether these things will work out years is a lot in terms of life stage, when to settle down, etc. I don't think "I am pretty sure if this guy were 40 a lot more people would have felt the same apprehension" is true.
#2 20-Year-Old Versus Thirty-Year-Old: Date Night
As for parents who may kick her out of the house, this is a separate issue. Therein lies your answer. They're adults, nobody is forcing either of them, and it sounds like she's being treated well.