Dating someone with herpes simplex, tips for dating someone with herpes
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This thread is closed to new comments. I hope this works out for you one way or another. Some people get outbreaks and some don't.
Which means kissing, oral sex, genital to genital sex, sucking on a finger that's been somewhere naughty and nice! Your attitude is a little cruel, sun-el. An ex- of mine used to get a few days warning before she had outbreak of oral herpes and so it was pretty easy to avoid making contact at an infectious time.
But in asking me this question, an actual person with herpes, you are shaming and insulting me in the name of needing help deciding.
By telling you, she was being responsible. You sound like a badass, and that confidence is what must make you such a great partner. And how freaked out you truly are about herpes once you know all about it.
Soon enough, I think the right answer for you about both the risk and the relationship will become fairly clear. First of all he wanted to know what it was really dating someone with herpes simplex and what the risks were for him to get if from me. Looking forward to your advice…. There's no girl on this earth worth getting herpes for That's just sad. I had no idea. The answer may just be "yes". And don't forget about the blow job bonus Article How to negotiate safe oral sex with a male partner. He or she may have already been looking for a way out, and herpes was as good an excuse as any.
How she got it is irrelevant. If things don't work out, no harm done; if you stay together, ask yourselves again in a few months or a year if sex is worth the risk. She got it from kissing family members at a Christmas party.
Make your decision based on actual information. I personally would never expect other people to pay for the consequences of uncommon, risky behavior that I could have as easily avoided, or at least I'd expect to pay more for coverage if I engaged in high-risk behavior.
Listen with your heart. Genital herpes doesn't detract from your many desirable qualities, which have drawn people to you in the past and will continue to make you a great catch. So I'm sorry, but no, I can't recommend this.
Only you can decide what constitutes an acceptable risk, but sleeping with her might be safer than you realize From what little you've told us, it sounds like she's got her head screwed on straight. Testing is affordable and maybe, I hate to say, it but there's a good chance you may have Herpes also.
So basically, when you don't want to take the risk of having sex with him even when protected, you are rejecting him over the possibility not even definite consequence of getting that nuisance. Notify me of new posts via email.
Perhaps, but life is very cruel.